As a mother who lost a child, I want to take a moment to recommend a resource. Stillbirthday is a comprehensive, supportive network, where you can be put in touch with a “mentor” who has lost a child herself (among many other resources). My loss long predates the site’s existence, but I was lucky enough to have a “mentor” myself – a friend with a similar loss who emailed me the entire time I was in the hospital, talking about what she went through, how it felt, what was coming next, etc. I cannot ever express how much this mattered to me, and matters to me still.
I do have to say that the site is somewhat religious – the woman who runs it is a devout Catholic. But the mentors themselves are from a variety of backgrounds and there is support available for almost anyone. This site has also been attacked multiple times by bloggers, because a few of the mentors at some point also were involved with The Mama Tao, a site that brutally satirizes the cultish behavior of the hardcore homebirth/”natural” birth/unassisted birth advocates.
Stillbirthday is not affiliated with The Mama Tao, and there are no current mentors for the former who currently write for the latter. Furthermore, there are a wide variety of mentors volunteering to help women going through one of the most soul-tearingly painful experiences ever, so there’s no reason to avoid (or defame) such a heartfelt, helpful site like Stillbirthday. So if you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage or any other loss of a baby, share the site. It’s beautiful and needed.
Cross-posted to Isaac’s Journey
(I know, I know. Still MIA. Although I do have the time more frequently these days, blogging takes a level of emotional energy and focus that is daunting. I’ve been working on a lot of other projects. This is the upside of being a smaller-scale blogger; I’m not really losing too much traffic, and it perks up if I post something particularly awesome. Which I really truly will.)